I have to be careful how i write about this and would respect readers to accept my reason for asking them not to discuss names involved in the case.
As you all know a footballer was found guilty of rape last week and was sentenced to a period in prison, That was the courts desicion and in line with justice the footballer still has option of appeal.
However i want to talk about to things now, The reaction from some sections of twitter and ho it feels to be raped.
Twitter reaction was similar to what we saw with the Luis Suarez/Patrice Evra racism storm, Liverpool stood by their player and claimed that *he had done nothing wrong* and the fans (well most of them followed that line) swallowed the line.
Well it was the same in the recent case of rape with some vile and disgusting comments.
This is a response to those idiots that made fun of rape.
Unless you have been raped you have no idea how it feels, not just physically, but mentally. Being forced to have someone else penis forced inside your own body is one of the most terrifying things that can ever happen, as you muscles tense up and the man forces his penis in with violence and the pain is stronger, While the rapist is happy getting his rocks of violating your body.
And even when the rape is over and spend you 24 hours in the bath and shower trying to get clean you still feel dirty, the physical scar will heal, but the mental battle has just begun.
You will have to battle with suicidal thoughts on a daily basis, fighting the urge to cut your wrist, or just cut yourself to try and deal with pain, all medicines have to be hidden away in a locked box ( it only takes 5 mins to swallow drugs that could end your life), you have to have constant company, no surprise visitors, all phones turned done so not to make you jump.
And this is all before you even try and go outside into the street, To be honest you will never be able to forget about being raped, but in time you can learn how to deal with and live a fairly normal life (if you have the right support), If you don't have the right support it could mean you life is basically over.
As you know i believe in free speech and have witnessed many times when people joke about what will happen to people who are put in prison, while they are criminals i would not wish being raped on anyone.
Again i will ask that you do not name the victim in the football case in the comments.
But please lets stop making light of rape, its not nice, its life changing and it represents the most personal violation that can be done to you.
Having asked for some legal advice i have been advised to post this
"FOR THE AVOIDANCE OF ANY DOUBT, I am not responsible for comments left on this site - I am unable to monitor it 24/7. However, should I be made aware of any comments left in relation to this article that break any laws of England & Wales, I will of course delete them immediately and co-operate fully with with any police investigation as to the identity of the commenter."
I know i can trust you guys to make sure i do not have to delete any comments.